"Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness."
Brene Brown (via wennietime)
Anonymous said: I'm meeting up with my ex boyfriend next week. We've been broken up for 5 months and my heart still hurts the same way it did on the first day. I told him that I can't live in this pain anymore, and I want to see him one last time to get closure. Do you have any advice?
Don’t sleep with him. Don’t tell him you love him. Don’t look him in the eyes for too long. Don’t say you can be “just friends.” Don’t let him buy you lunch. Don’t let his touch set you alight. Don’t let him see how much it hurts. Be strong, be brave, be kind to yourself.
"They didn’t allow me to become a nurse because of my hijab. Thank you, I became a doctor instead" #BURN
Anonymous said: what is something you know that has changed the way you think
Despite what many may think, hatred is not the opposite of love. The opposite of love is indifference. So instead of hating someone, use that energy to heal yourself until you honestly don’t care anymore. Because hate consumes you and makes you bitter. I think through knowing that, I can genuinely say I hate no one, which is good!
"You don’t believe me when I tell you that I like the noises you make when you sleep
And I don’t believe you when you tell me that my voice is your favorite sound,
Not when you can sing like that.
One of your ex’s name tastes like stale coffee
And the other one burns as if I’ve swallowed a scalding pot.
You don’t understand why I don’t discuss my first love with you
But how am I supposed to tell the sun that I once fell for the moon?
If I could, I’d pay rent for the spaces between your fingers,
So if anyone else tried to intertwine their hand with yours,
They would be trespassing.
I’m very good at useless metaphors
And very bad at telling people how I feel
But on our worst nights, you’re snow in the month of March
and even though I’m sick of winter,
I will never stop appreciating the beauty of a blizzard."
All About Us, #1 (via spvandi)
"Sometimes when I look at you, I feel I’m gazing at a distant star,’ I said. ‘It’s dazzling, but the light is from tens of thousands of years ago. Maybe the star doesn’t even exist anymore. Yet sometimes that light seems more real to me than anything."
Haruki Murakami, South of the Border, West of the Sun (via fleurlungs)
"I can only note that the past is beautiful because one never realises an emotion at the time. It expands later, and thus we don’t have complete emotions about the present, only about the past."
Virginia Woolf (via fleurlungs)
"I’ve always been terrified of running into you and having absolutely nothing to say."
"I am a feminist. I’ve been female for a long time now. I’d be stupid not to be on my own side."
Maya Angelou (via 5000letters)
"…and you drink a little too much and try a little too hard. And you go home to a cold bed and think, ‘That was fine’. And your life is a long line of fine."
Gillian Flynn (via fleurlungs)
Anonymous said: 15, 18, 25, 35. have fun! (your blog is quite cute as well)
Hello! First of all, thank you very much- that is so kind.
15. Talk about the time you were most content in life.
Probably when I was younger. I was more easily satisfied. I think I needed less to make me happy.
18: Talk about something that happened in elementary school.
I don’t actually know what elementary school is (I live in the UK) however I think it is something like primary school- please correct me if I’m wrong! If so, I remember the time when I hid on the red stairs with a tonne of my friends during lessons. And when the Deputy Head came up the stairs, we all hid in boxes and random storage units :’)
I have already answered 25 in quite some depth if you scroll!
35. Talk about things you wish you could stop doing.
I wish I would stop procrastinating and stop making rash decisions that have heavy consequences.
This is how you lose her.
You lose her when you forget to remember the little things that mean the world to her: the sincerity in a stranger’s voice during a trip to the grocery, the delight of finding something lost or forgotten like a sticker from when she was five, the selflessness of a child giving a part of his meal to another, the scent of new books in the store, the surprise short but honest notes she tucks in her journal and others you could only see if you look closely.
You must remember when she forgets.
You lose her when you don’t notice that she notices everything about you: your use of the proper punctuation that tells her continuation rather than finality, your silence when you’re about to ask a question but you think anything you’re about to say to her would be silly, your mindless humming when it is too quiet, your handwriting when you sign your name in blank sheets of paper, your muted laughter when you are trying to be polite, and more and more of what you are, which you don’t even know about yourself, because she pays attention.
She remembers when you forget.
You lose her for every second you make her feel less and less of the beauty that she is. When you make her feel that she is replaceable. She wants to feel cherished. When you make her feel that you are fleeting. She wants you to stay. When you make her feel inadequate. She wants to know that she is enough and she does not need to change for you, nor for anyone else because she is she and she is beautiful, kind and good.
You must learn her.
You must know the reason why she is silent. You must trace her weakest spots. You must write to her. You must remind her that you are there. You must know how long it takes for her to give up. You must be there to hold her when she is about to.
You must love her because many have tried and failed. And she wants to know that she is worthy to be loved, that she is worthy to be kept.
And, this is how you keep her"
This Is How You Lose Her || Junot Diaz (via 5000letters)
Anonymous said: 4, 7, 10, 11, 25, 29, 33
4. Talk about the thing you regret most so far.
Not being as kind or compassionate to the people I love as I should be.
7. Talk about your biggest insecurity.
I am quite insecure about a lot of things about myself. But I am learning to love myself because by loving yourself, you are able to be more stable and reliant upon yourself.
10.Talk about the biggest fight you’ve ever had.
With my sister. Stupid things were said and done. But it has made me a better person. And it has made me love her more for it.
11. Talk about the best dream you’ve ever had.
It was the most frightening and euphoric dream. Simple because everything was fixed.
25. Talk about an ex-best friend.
She stopped caring and said that I used her, in addition to a multitude of other shit. Then I realised she never cared to begin with and I cared too much about someone who didn’t deserve it. So I stopped giving a fuck. I think it was one of the best decisions I have ever made because I felt happier and more independent because of it and got closer to my real friends.
Never surround yourself with people who make you feel inadequate for your flaws or people who make you any less than the best version of yourself.
29. Talk about what turns you on.
Beards, readers, Dean Geyer (subject to change), imagination, spontaneity, messy hair, warmth, nice eyes, intelligence, big jumpers, big glasses, passion, vulnerability.
33. Talk about what you do when you are sad.
I eat. A lot. I sulk. I passionately rant about woman’s rights. I watch rom-coms. I procrastinate. I cry. I talk to my friends. I turn Taylor Swift up to full volume. I take long showers. I nap. I watch Keeping Up With The Kardshians. I attempt winged eyeliner. I then take selfies with this eyeliner.
Thanks for asking! If you have any other questions, shoot! Also, if I am not following your blog, message me and I will!
people who make you feel better about yourself when you’re sad are so important